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SlimSkeeter

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For Mamba and Abs

Topic: Cultural assimilation

You have literally transplanted into a different country, geographically, and experienced all of its norm; how important is to assimilate in a new society? What cultural traits have you taken on and what changes have you seen in yourself?
Lastly, do you see yourself at some time in the future or (even now), at a point of full assimilation?

Llama and Choke

Topic: Community

If you had the means and ways, how would you contribute to your local community?
Lets say you had a reasonable amount of funds. How would you put this to work, back into your community? Please elaborate.

For all of you:

Topic: General

What would you consider to be your strongest and weakest points? (elaborate as much as you need)

What are some things you hope to accomplish, both long and short term?

Name 4 of your biggest fears, two rational and two irrational.
 

Llamageddon

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"If you had the means and ways, how would you contribute to your local community? Lets say you had a reasonable amount of funds. How would you put this to work, back into your community? Please elaborate."

To fully answer this question, I'm going on the basis that these funds are of a substantial amount.

In which case, the first thing I would do would be to find (or build) a large social centre, which will consist of social groups, activities, as well as a part for the young people of the community to socialise in, so as to ensure that those who would be out of college and school are still doing something worthwhile and are not bored at home or in the streets.

I decided upon this course of action for one main reason, which is social integration and cohesion. If there are lots of groups, societies and clubs to join, wherein people can meet those of a similar mindset, then the people in such club will have a stronger sense of belonging to the community. This centre could then hold fundraisers for various local hospices and projects and get people working together to help their community.

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What would you consider to be your strongest and weakest points? (elaborate as much as you need)

I would say that my strongest point is my loyalty to my friends and my ability to keep secrets that they share with me.

My weakest point would definitely be my tendency to procrastinate and to put things off.

~​

What are some things you hope to accomplish, both long and short term?

In the long term, I would like to be a journalist for a newspaper or charity pressure group, while my short term goal would probably be to find a job.

~​

Name 4 of your biggest fears, two rational and two irrational.

Rational:

1. Drowning.

2. Being buried alive.

Irrational:

1. Spiders.

2. Clowns.
 

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You have literally transplanted into a different country, geographically, and experienced all of its norm; how important is to assimilate in a new society? What cultural traits have you taken on and what changes have you seen in yourself? Lastly, do you see yourself at some time in the future or (even now), at a point of full assimilation?
Personally I think that some "assimilation" is important if you want to stay in a different country for an extended period of time. Basic skills like learning the language and becoming familiar with local customs (if they are different from your own) will make it much easier to "get around" and to be successful.

Should you adopt all local customs? Not necessarily, but respecting them is the least you can do.

When I moved to the US I had to get used to how different some things are from Germany.

A few examples:

* I was used to pay my rent via bank transfer. Here I had to buy a money order or get cash, go the the rental companies office and pay there
* Sunday is not a day when neighbors respect your day off. Nope, mowing grass on Sunday morning is totally acceptable.
* Very few people in Germany have their dogs in the back yard, especially not 24/7. That's definitely different in the US.
* Try to find a bank open in Germany on a Saturday. There is no such thing...
* Stores close at a certain time and are NOT open on Sunday. Here I can go shopping whenever I want to.
* Gas comes in gallons and not liters
* Sales taxes are not included in the sticker price in a US store
* I miss weekend breakfast with fresh "Brötchen"...
* People in the US are more polite. They say "excuse me" or "pardon me" when they have to get past you. Holding the door is normal. Helping a woman loading something heavy into her vehicle is more common here.
* Way less vacation time in the US and hardly any maternity leave

I don't think I am fully Americanized at this point. And yes, I am still a German citizen. However, I did get used to living here and I think I did adopt a thing or two. For example saying "excuse me" in a store when I reach for something on a shelf while another customer is still trying to make up his mind has become second nature for me. It got to the point that I do it when I am back home. Can you imagine the looks I am getting?

At this point I don't think I want to or can fully assimilate. Growing up in Germany shaped a lot of my personality and values.

So you don't like that? Whateva!! I don't care what the fuck you think! Fuck you!! Yeah! (<-- That's my adopted American Fuck You Attitude)

What would you consider to be your strongest and weakest points? (elaborate as much as you need)
Strongest: My work ethic is one of my strongest points. I have never missed a dead line.

Weakest: Sometimes I tend to over analyze things and end up making them more complicated than they really are...

What are some things you hope to accomplish, both long and short term?
Long term: To keep being successful in my job and to eventually take the PE exam (which requires another exam first)
Short term: To take and pass the motorcycle driving test

Name 4 of your biggest fears, two rational and two irrational.
Rational:
1. Heights
2. "World is running out of Chocolate"

Irrational:
1. Roaches
2. Spiders
 

Negativecool

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Strongest: My work ethic is one of my strongest points. I have never missed a dead line.

Weakest: Sometimes I tend to over analyze things and end up making them more complicated than they really are...
Lame. Sounds a lot like you're interviewing for a job here. Over analyzing in combination with never missing a deadline is a strong point as the quality of work is always second to none. Over analyzers FTW.
 

Mamba

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Forgive me if I get long winded...

Topic: Cultural assimilation

You have literally transplanted into a different country, geographically, and experienced all of its norm; how important is to assimilate in a new society?

I believe that it is very important to assimilate in a new society. I hate it when people move to a different country and make no effort at all to learn the language, for example - and just carry on as if nothing had happened and they were still in the country they came from. I find these sort of people ignorant to the point of distaste.
I speak Spanish fluently, but that wasn't always the case. I learnt Spanish, the way one would learn any language at school, with lessons every week - for about 5 years. However, when I came over to Spain I had a complete memory BLANK - I couldn't remember a thing that I had learned, and certainly felt like 5 years of my life at school learning this language had been wasted.
I think there is just no substitute for actually speaking to Spanish people and immersing yourself in the life. What you learn in a textbook will never compare to actually living it. The language of "la calle" (the street) is completely different to what you would learn at school.
In the end, I actually taught myself, through speaking to Spanish people and watching Spanish television with the subtitles on - and a dictionary in my lap. I would watch television a lot, reading the subtitles, writing down all the words that I didn't know... and that's how I did it. My first phrase I ever learned was "No hablo mucho español pero lo intento" I don't speak much Spanish, but I try
Fast forward the clock a few years and I was speaking Spanish fluently, I even advertised in a cafe I worked in and taught Spanish to English expats for a while. That was when I discovered my passion for teaching...
I have a good memory for languages, my fool proof method is to repeat a phrase ad nauseum in my head and then outloud, and then I just know it. I have learned many phrases from different languages this way.... Finnish, German, Swedish, Russian...
Whilst I believe that you should immerse yourself completely in a culture, that's not to say that you shouldn't be proud of your roots - I am proud to be British of course - but I also recognise and accept our shortcomings as a nation (as I believe we all should) I think if you live in another country, you should embrace their culture - the food, the people, the leisure activities, the way of life, ... otherwise what is the point?? I think each culture is beautiful in its own way, and there is something to be learned from all of them, no matter how small. I have friends from many different nationalities, and I think -as long as they are not shoving their beliefs down your throat, or harming others - that there is something wonderful about them, and I love new experiences.


What cultural traits have you taken on and what changes have you seen in yourself?


I speak a lot with my hands, like the Spanish women do - which I never used to do.
Also, I very rarely use ´please´as part of a sentence anymore - preferring to use it on its own and sparingly. Let me explain: Spanish people often don't say "please" as part of a sentence, as the way they speak (the inflection on the end of the phrase) is meant to imply that you are asking a question - for example "Me traes la cuenta?" If you raise your voice, lilting upwards slightly when you say "cuenta" (inflection on the "ta") then you might as well have said please and other Spaniards will not take offence.
I also find myself peppering my day-to day vocabularly with Spanish/English hybrid words - the famous "Spanglish" a mix of English and Spanish. Or I will start speaking English, and then suddenly switch to Spanish - which is both amusing and enjoyable for me - and my colleagues/friends who speak both.
I've taken on the Spanish custom of kissing people on both cheeks when I meet them, and I even do it when I say goodbye to people who aren't Spanish! Yep... In fact, the only time I won't adhere to that custom is when I meet someone who really repulses me. Then I instantly revert to an extremely reserved English woman, and put out my hand (as far away from me as possible) for them to shake it. (They really hate that) But I just shrug and say, well I am English! XD. Guys who are NOT Spanish love the kissing custom, and use it constantly - (even if it's perfectly obvious that neither of you are Spanish) as they can take advantage of getting close to a woman they have just met!!

One drawback to being bilingual is sometimes I will be in the middle of an English conversation, and I suddenly can't remember the word I want to use next. I will usually be able to find it's Spanish translation in the dark recesses of my mind, but the English word will escapes me (usually it will be on the tip of my tongue, but I can't for the life of me, remember it.) For this reason, (aside from the fact that I enjoy it immensely) I like to read almost constantly when I am at home (English books) in my free time, as I feel it reinstates my English vocabularly to the level it once was.

Lastly, do you see yourself at some time in the future or (even now), at a point of full assimilation?


I think I am already at full assimilation. Spain feels like my home in a way that England never was.

What would you consider to be your strongest and weakest points? (elaborate as much as you need)

My weakest points are that sometimes I just don't have the patience to see something through to the finish. I might give up if I become bored with a project, as I am at my most productive right at the beginning when I am full of ambition and feel like I can take on the world. If I lose interest along the way it becomes very difficult for me to get back to the state I was in in the beginning.

My strongest points are (perhaps paradoxically) that I have a lot of enthusiasm and determination for life and work. I am a really dedicated worker, and I will do whatever I can to "bring home the bacon" and ensure my child is well looked after and doesn't want for anything (but not to the point of spoiling, as that really pisses me off)
I'm also very loyal, and I will always defend an absent person (who is my friend) when people talk shit about them.


What are some things you hope to accomplish, both long and short term?


Sooo many things, let's see:

Short term
I want to get my driving license. I know you're probably all in shock right now, but I've never learned. I've always lived in small towns where I didn't really need to... but now I work very far from where I live, so I need to - plus I would like the independence it will afford me. So I'm working on that at the moment.

Long term
I want to continue to be successful within my work arena and get promoted etc. I eventually want to own my own company.
I want to continue to be the best mother that I can.
I want to travel to many varied far flung exotic locations.

Name 4 of your biggest fears, two rational and two irrational.

Rational fears

Heights (It's funny I never used to have vertigo and now I do)
I am afraid of death sometimes...

Irrational
Spiders
Wasps/Bees (except I was stung lots when I was a child by bees - does this make it rational?)
Major claustrophobia
 

Wenis

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Forgive me if I get long winded...

Topic: Cultural assimilation

You have literally transplanted into a different country, geographically, and experienced all of its norm; how important is to assimilate in a new society?

I believe that it is very important to assimilate in a new society. I hate it when people move to a different country and make no effort at all to learn the language, for example - and just carry on as if nothing had happened and they were still in the country they came from. I find these sort of people ignorant to the point of distaste.
Why did you move from the UK to Spain?

For a different life in general or a more specific reason?
 

SlimSkeeter

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By my count we are missing one..... Anybody seen Choke? Can you kick her in the ass on this one, please?


Sheesh, bitches be all procrastinatin n shit....
 

Stickman

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What would you consider to be your strongest and weakest points? (elaborate as much as you need)

In no way bragging but I've always been a fast learner. It takes me significantly less time to understand processes and the general workings of things than the average person. This is probably my strongest point and why I was just promoted ahead of people who have been working for my company for three years longer than I have.

Weakest points. I'd have to say the difference between my work attitude and my home life attitude. I am an extremely hard worker when getting paid for it and set high expectations for myself. At home I really can't be assed. Example. I broke my bed frame a month ago. It's still broken I just haven't been assed replacing it.

What are some things you hope to accomplish, both long and short term?

I'm not the best at setting long term goals. I get itchy feet after settling for too long. So I generally tend to look short term. At the moment I'm pretty darn set on doing well in my new role. It takes up the majority of my life at the moment. While my bosses are extremely happy with my performance I've so far seen a lot of room for improvement and am dissatisfied with my performance so far. But that's just me I evaluate myself a lot harsher than some would say healthy.

Name 4 of your biggest fears, two rational and two irrational.

I only really have one thing I would call a fear. Irrational. I get very very nervous standing outside in thunder storms. I know the odds of getting struck by lightning but still makes me act like a little bitch. Also perhaps I fear death. But not death itself. More of the fact that I don't want to die young. I still think I have a lot to accomplish and so many things I want to do and see. This includes the lovely brunette at work.
 

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Well....................you see................some of the ladies were nominated (already done in another thread) to answer a question (that I actually posed fyi and Skeet making the long/short term-4 biggest fears questions).

We as members vote for those ladies who were nominated (all done in another thread).
The winner gets a hefty US$20 from Skeet as a prize.

It's a girly thing, my man.
 

SlimSkeeter

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That would be skim reading for you. Meh I think I look good in a dress. Surely I can get a late nomination. Man bits aside.


Don't worry...there will be a dude version next... I'm sure someone will nominate you ;)